10 Emotional Needs in Marriage

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

3. INTIMATE CONVERSATIONS (Song of Solomon 1:1-16)
In the Song of Songs, we see intimate conversations between the Beloved and the Lover. There are plentiful words. About 60% of the verses in this book are words that are spoken between these lovers. It’s obvious that they miss the sound of the other’s voice when they are separated. You know sometimes it seems that when our marriages get older, that we get colder. We stop talking. Husband and wife, we must make time for intimate conversations.

Intimate conversations are the next step beyond normal, everyday conversation. Intimate conversation is personal. It reveals feelings, concerns, cares and is often emotional. Intimate conversation often occurs while dating, and then drops off after marriage. Most women not only crave intimate conversation, but they need it. Men tend to not need it as much, nor enjoy talking intimately after marriage.

Intimate conversation does not take place when one partner is distracted by the TV, cellphone, or something else. Intimate conversation is dedicated time set aside for the exclusive purpose of connecting about the day, problems, achievements, dreams, fears, and goals. Dr. Harley Jr. recommends 15 hours of such conversation each and every week. While that may sound difficult, it is a sound way to develop a happy marriage.

If you are familiar with the concept of the Love Bank, intimate conversation is a great way to make love bank deposits. Men need to understand this and develop intimate conversation skills. Those with a need for intimate conversations will fall in love with someone who can have such a conversation with them. They will stay in love with the person who continues to have an intimate conversation.

ACTION ASSIGNMENT
During this week, intentionally make efforts to have intimate conversations with Plentiful, Personal, Positive, and Passionate Words. Consciously make deposits into each others’ Love Bank.

PRAYER: Dear Lord, thank you for the marvelous gift of intimate conversations in our marriage. Help us to honor and cherish it. In Jesus’ name. Amen.