10 Emotional Needs in Marriage

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8. DOMESTIC SUPPORT
Dr. Harley, Jr. puts it well – “The need of domestic support is a time bomb”. There was a time when it was expected that the man would earn the money to support the household, and the woman would raise the children and keep the house clean. Today with many women working full or part-time jobs, having to raise the children and keep the house clean, is an undue burden. Yet, there are still many men who want to put in their time at work and come home to relax, having dinner waiting for them.

When children arrive, the need for domestic support changes radically. The fact is, we do not live in the 1950s any longer and cooperation in taking care of the children and household are mandatory.

Consider the following actions:

1. Identify all household responsibilities. Both partners must agree on the list of duties.
2. Assume responsibilities for specified tasks. From the master list, each partner agrees to do the tasks they wish to take on.
3. Assign the remaining tasks. Both partners agree to who will do what and when they are to be completed.
4. Each spouse indicates which duties they would like help with. Some tasks are best done together or with the help of the other spouse.
5. Each partner helps the other spouse with other tasks. Love units are earned by giving help where your help is volunteered and appreciated.

ACTION ASSIGNMENT
If there is a confusion of doing tasks in your house, which leads to frequent conflicts and misunderstanding in your marriage this week take time to sit and discuss and write down the above mentioned actions in distribution of tasks at home peacefully.

PRAYER: Jesus, teach us to have an extra mile mentality in doing our tasks and responsibilities at home for a peaceful atmosphere at home and by so doing to consciously depositing in each other’s Love Banks. In Jesus’ name, amen.