Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. (Proverbs 31:28)

Isn’t it a great feeling to be praised for something you’ve done? There is hardly anything like it. We all love to get verbal “pats on the back” when we do something well. It’s part of how we are made.

Sadly, most marriages are what we call “praise deficient”.

In most marriages, praise, when it is offered at all, is often faint or “backhanded” at best. We’re talking about “compliments” such as “that dress doesn’t look all that bad.”

We all need praise to keep going in life. We need someone to notice our effort and talents and give us verbal “strokes.” We need praise that is clear, strong, and accurate so we know beyond a doubt that we are being praised.

The accuracy of our praise relates to the genuineness of our words. True praise is not flattery – words of “praise” spoken to another person for our own benefit. Genuine praise is unselfish – an expression of our gratitude for the benefit of another.

One important element in true praise that helps communicate its genuineness is honestly and genuinely “knowing” the person. If we were to praise our spouse for a quality that is lacking in them, they would laugh and wonder if we lost our mind. On the other hand they will be blessed if we praised them for their good qualities or strengths. Such words of praise would affirm them that we really do “know” them.

Praise your spouse for the good things. Don’t let your praise be faint. Make it loud and clear and honest.

ACTION ASSIGNMENT
What honest words of praise can you speak to your spouse today?

PRAYER: God, help me offer praise to my spouse regularly, clearly, and honestly. In Jesus’ name, amen.