As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. (1 Peter 4:10)

Marriage is one of God’s gifts – an extension of His divine grace. In marriage, God has designed a three-dimensional relationship where two people share friendship, fellowship, and passion. We often encourage couples to draw a triangle, representing these three dimensions, as a tool for reflection and communication.

FRIENDSHIP helps guard us from the barrenness of a busy life. Psalms 127:2 speaks of the vanity of rising early, retiring late – and missing out on what is most important in life.

FELLOWSHIP in marriage gives life a sense of divine mystery. The aging apostle John speaks of sharing what he had seen and heard so that others might have fellowship
(1 John 1:3).

PASSION in marriage provides opportunity for one’s spouse to “know” and “be known” in ways that are not possible in any other human relationship. The privilege of selfless giving offers a private place of fulfillment, refuge, and protection.

Vasanth and Praneeta drew their perceived triangles as they answered in three important dimensions of their relationship. First, they drew the base of the triangle, which represented their perception of friendship. It dealt with mutual enjoyment, common interests, and emotional support.

Next, they drew a side of the triangle to represent their fellowship. This side dealt with security, spiritual closeness, and common eternal goals.

Finally, they drew a side of the triangle that represented their passion. It dealt with comfort in areas such as physical touching, and dealt with the importance of this area of marriage to each spouse.

As Vasanth and Praneeta shared their drawings with one another, they were prompted to be open and honest. Praneeta even apologized as she commented on how short the base of her triangle was, as that represented how she was neglecting the physical touch need of their friendship.

On the other side, Vasanth also acknowledged how he was taking for granted the emotional support Praneeta was needing at times.

ACTION ASSIGNMENT
In what ways can you strengthen the three areas of your marriage as listed above?
Which area is being neglected or taken for granted?

PRAYER: Father, enlarge our capacity to enjoy intimacy. In Jesus’ name, amen.